Today Calla has been in our arms and forever chosen for 9 months.
She has come SO far, it is hard to imagine just how much.
So many changes.
Emotionally she has gone from:
Terrified of everything (especially our dog) to sprawling out on top of her.
Crying long hours at night to lying down with a kiss and falling asleep on her own.
Sick with undetermined fevers to no fever at all.
Rotten teeth and cavity in every single tooth to a mouth of healthy teeth.
Questionable heart concerns to once a year visits like her siblings.
Speaking Chinese and no communication at all with us (Extremely frustrating for her) to speaking 4-5 word sentences.
Communicating her needs and wants amazingly well.
Knows SO many vocabulary words, counts, knows some letters, can spell her name, and sings songs non stop.
Came with a hyper fear of falling so didn’t want her feet hovering above the ground (hated the swing and riding toys) and now she LOVES the swing and peddles her own trike.
She also loves steering the Barbie jeep and riding around our yard.
She runs, jumps on the trampoline, and follows her sibs everywhere they go.
I’ll let these little videos speak for me…
Doesn’t a picture speak a thousand words?
What brings a child so far?
No child ever gets to choose the family they are born into.
They don’t get to choose whether to stay in the family… or be abandoned.
They also don’t get to choose adoption.
All that is decided for them.
A child should be given all the Unconditional Love they NEED in healing from the brokenness.
Sometimes what they need is opposite of what we want to give them…
Thrashing on the floor in a fit. They NEED us to pick them up and hold securely.
Spitting, slapping, and yelling. They NEED a smile, an affirmation, a Mama Loves You!
Crying for hours at night and no sleep. They NEED someone to sit with them, lie with them, or rock them.
Refusing to walk or begging to be held. They NEED to be held more than they walk even if they are ‘too old’ to be held.
Requiring the same monotonous routine day in and day out. They NEED their world to be predictable and secure. Cocoon PLEASE!
And she still has far to go.
In my experience until a child has been home as long as not, they don’t fully grasp the depth of family.
In the months and years to come, we will continue to:
Tell her story over and over to her.
Support all the struggles and offer distractions.
Continue building bonds and security.
Meet her in the hard and usher her into the beautiful.
Most of all we will continue leading her spiritually.
Jesus is her healer, not us.
Prayer is where her future lies, and we promise to love her straight to His feet.
Every Single Day!